tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-31212413784747318522024-03-05T16:04:16.657-07:00Etiquette and the Victorian Gothic Aesthetic"Being powerful is like being a lady. If you have to tell people you are, you aren't." Margaret ThatcherRaven Sextonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08377446319000178050noreply@blogger.comBlogger90125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3121241378474731852.post-24097268111483814072015-08-09T13:45:00.001-07:002015-08-09T13:45:47.721-07:00Not All Goths Are Center Stage<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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I thought this deserved at least a short pondering-in-print. Recently, a young woman was sharing her lamentations about being "an unsuccessful Goth". Her concern was that no one knew her, that she wasn't visible and that no one took her seriously for her "hobby." So I asked her what she thought being Goth meant. Like most of us, she relayed her love of dark things, fancy things, more than a touch of morbidity, the colour black, and anything artistic and creative along those lines. Then I asked her, based on her definition, and the fact that these are things she loves, aspects she has added to her own day to day life, how she felt she was unsuccessful. There was a long pause before she smiled.<br />
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The simple fact is... being Goth is simply that. Being. Not proving and not displaying (unless one wishes to. One's "gothness" should not be, and seldom is, judged by other goths based on the size of one's gothy wardrobe, alternative hair colours, or lack thereof, whether they make a living as an artist, a writer, or some other artistic pursuit, or how much band trivia they can spew in a conversation about "The accepted" Goth bands over the decades. It's a state of being and a love of gothic things. In addition, it cannot be cancelled out by a love of other things, too. I've known quite a few "cowboy goths" over the years. Last I heard, we add a second or third word to our "Goth" self-description as a way to express the breadth and width of our horizons, our love of many things, and our preferences. It is not meant to compete, exclude or narrow in any way, our place in the world.<br />
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As it turns out, like most of us, this young lady was comparing herself to others in her search for her own identity. Like the person who compares themselves to others, "Am I thin/curvy enough?", "Am I tall enough?", being Goth is a huge part of her self-identification, and as is natural, she had stumbled into that trap, but was quick to catch it and ask.<br />
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That same question lends itself to the fact that not all Goths are the center stage performers, the famous writers, artists or DJs. Not all Goths are famous YouTube celebrities with a regular vlog, the most popular shop in New Orleans or other metropolis that has been identified with the Goth scene. Behind every well-known or up-and-coming Goth performer is an army of stage hands, costumers, etc. who are a mixture of Goth and non-Goth. Those well-known and adored writers also have editors and publishers, publicists and experts who are a mix of Goth and non-Goth. We are quite literally everywhere. Some of us support Gothic arts in an advisory, promotional or technical role. Others of us support Gothic arts as consumers.<br />
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Being Goth has one common thread, as I have found, and that is a love of Expression, in its many dark, or surreal, or non-mainstream ways and through countless mediums. We feel deeply, even though many seem quite aloof (and if you've been in their shoes, you'd understand how the two are connected), and enjoy emphatically. It may or may not show on the surface, but it is there, and it makes no one less or more Goth.<br />
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Enjoy your Gothness, your Wickedness, your Twistedness and your Spookiness. Fly your black flag, and if it includes trimming in red, purple, emerald green, royal blue, or even some white stripes (mine includes lace), excellent!!<br />
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Be, Live, Enjoy, and Keep it Spooky,<br />
Raven</div>
Raven Sextonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08377446319000178050noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3121241378474731852.post-56872772423152240032015-08-05T16:23:00.000-07:002015-08-05T16:25:49.611-07:00Hallowe'en Shopping Season is Upon Us<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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So now that we are "under the gun" so to speak, with fewer than 100 days until All Hallow's, who has been receiving their Hallowe'en shopping catalogues in the daily post, or the much anticipated emails that Autumn and Hallowe'en products are in and ready to be ooh'd and ahh'd over, but most importantly, bought up in a frenzy of Autumnal Anticipation and Spooky Preparedness?<br />
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To help, I have assembled a list of just some of the retailers with this year's haunted goodies ready and waiting for new haunted homes.<br />
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<b><span style="font-size: large;"><a href="http://www.grandinroad.com/halloween-haven/shop-all-halloween-haven/?&mkwid=scXFEv7cp_dc&pcrid=73194566780&pmt=b&pkw=haloween%20decor&SourceCode=ZZ50898&cm_mmc=SEM+Product-_-Halloween+Decor%3EGeneral+Decorations%3EBroad-_-haloween%20decor+b-_-google&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=NonBrand+-+Search+%3E+Celebrations+and+Gifts+%3E+RLSA&utm_term=haloween%20decor&gclid=CjwKEAjw6IauBRCJ3KPXkNro1BoSJAAhXxpyIlLtL1ayqL-qXuoVJEdORMM4okKmMX7xiXlMTzLIuBoCz_zw_wcB" target="_blank">Grandin Road</a>...</span></b><br />
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<b><span style="font-size: large;"><a href="http://www.dappercadaver.com/" target="_blank">Dapper Cadaver</a> </span></b>(This site has TONS for the more gore-inclined) <br />
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<b><span style="font-size: large;"><a href="http://www.victoriantradingco.com/category/107100/halloween" target="_blank">Victorian Trading Co.</a>...</span></b><br />
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And let's not forget all the best staple places for picking up bits and pieces. Most have their Autumn and Hallowe'en trinkets appearing on shelves now.<br />
<b>Target</b><br />
<b>Joann Fabrics</b><br />
<b>Spirit Store</b><br />
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<b>Cracker Barrel </b>(Checked the site and it does not do their in-store stock justice by any means)<br />
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Where have you begun your Hallowe'en preparation shopping? And don't tell me you haven't begun... I'm guessing... last November 1st? I'd expect no less... I am so proud. *snifs and wipes a tear*<br />
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Feel free to share your latest retail Hallowe'en shopping finds!<br />
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And now I'm off to continue finessing more posts focused on our artists, crafters and dark dreaming creators to share their wares with you.<br />
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Am I the only one feeling the excitement build?<br />
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Til next... Keep it Spooky,<br />
Raven</div>
Raven Sextonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08377446319000178050noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3121241378474731852.post-23940233320172484092015-07-26T00:53:00.000-07:002015-07-26T00:53:09.574-07:00ArmadilloCon 37So THIS is where I left it! Time has certainly passed since I was here, and for that I do apologize (again). Seems every time I think I am going to be able to focus on the EVGA blog, life steps in, things come up, and excuses aside, good old Shiny Object Syndrome kicks in and I find myself in the middle of several other projects. The good news: Most of the projects currently consuming my time involve writing, with one or two nearing completion so that I can get back to what I love most: All things Dark, lace-trimmed, ghostly and nocturnal. <div>
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Well, My Dears, I fully intended to begin October with a post
and a new idea and I am already a day late. So, to make up for it, I am sharing
one idea with two approaches. Just to make
things a bit more engaging (I hope), I have decided to see if I can round out
one of my labours of love with the appropriate number of ideas. Two years ago I peppered the month of October
with what was intended to be an idea a day from 1<sup>st</sup> October clear
through to the magical day itself, the 31<sup>st</sup>. Sadly, I came up 10 days short, so now I am working
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During my visit with Oly and Brenna Mar last month on
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mirrors. No Victorianesque home, Hallowe’en or other less fabulous day of the
year, would be complete without an aged mirror to add charm, function and the
occasional spooky portal for the dearly only-partially-departed. Many, many
thanks, Brenna. I did a bit of hunting on YouTube because I am the type who
needs to be walked through visually, or it is NOT going to turn out as planned,
no matter how well the instructions (or Destructions as we call them at my
house) are written. You will find below two money saving approaches
to antique mirrors without the 150 year wait.
I hope you enjoy, and by all means, share your stories and photos of
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Now to make up for my tardiness and to get things really
rolling, I am waxing nostalgic. Below you will find links to the original 21 Victorianesque Hallowe’en Hints of 2012. We will consider the mirror project “22nd October”. Remember, I am ALWAYS looking
for new ideas, or old ideas I have not included here. If you have a thought, a
question or a random A HA moment, just comment below or feel free to contact me
directly at <a href="mailto:raven@stoneangelsgaze.com">raven@stoneangelsgaze.com</a>. Send in photos of any of the projects below
(or above) that you decide to use. I would love to share them (full credit
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And yes…. There is much more in the works. I have GOT to do
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Darkest Regards,</div>
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1<sup>st</sup> October: <a href="http://ravensexton-evga.blogspot.com/2011/10/victorianesque-halloween-introduction.html">Victorianesque Hallowe’en: An Introduction</a><o:p></o:p></div>
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4<sup>th</sup> October: <a href="http://ravensexton-evga.blogspot.com/2011/10/victorianesque-halloween-all-hallows.html">All Hallow’s Tree</a> <o:p></o:p></div>
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6<sup>th</sup> October: <a href="http://ravensexton-evga.blogspot.com/2011/10/victorianesque-halloween-string-lights.html">String Lights</a> <o:p></o:p></div>
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7<sup>th</sup> October: <a href="http://ravensexton-evga.blogspot.com/2011/10/victorianesque-halloween-spooky-chic.html">Spooky Chic</a> <o:p></o:p></div>
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8<sup>th</sup> October: <a href="http://ravensexton-evga.blogspot.com/2011/10/victorianesque-halloween-silhouettes.html">Silhouettes</a> <o:p></o:p></div>
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9<sup>th</sup> October: <a href="http://ravensexton-evga.blogspot.com/2011/10/victorianesque-halloween-costume-ideas.html">Costume Ideas</a> <o:p></o:p></div>
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11<sup>th</sup> October: <a href="http://ravensexton-evga.blogspot.com/2011/10/victorianesque-halloween-aging-indoors.html">Aging (The Indoors) Gracefully</a> <o:p></o:p></div>
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15<sup>th</sup> October: <a href="http://ravensexton-evga.blogspot.com/2011/10/victorianesque-halloween-home.html">Home Apothecary</a> <o:p></o:p></div>
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16<sup>th</sup> October: <a href="http://ravensexton-evga.blogspot.com/2011/10/victorianesque-halloween-literary-decor.html">Literary Decor</a> <o:p></o:p></div>
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18<sup>th</sup> October: <a href="http://ravensexton-evga.blogspot.com/2011/10/victorianesque-halloween-lattices.html">Lattices</a> <o:p></o:p></div>
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19<sup>th</sup> October: <a href="http://ravensexton-evga.blogspot.com/2011/10/victorianesque-halloween-frame-up.html">The Frame Up</a> <o:p></o:p></div>
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20<sup>th</sup> October: <a href="http://ravensexton-evga.blogspot.com/2011/10/victorianesque-halloween-dressform-and.html">Dressform and Coatrack</a> <o:p></o:p></div>
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21<sup>st</sup> October: <a href="http://ravensexton-evga.blogspot.com/2011/10/victorianesque-halloween-halloween.html">Hallowe’en Family Dinner</a> <o:p></o:p></div>
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Raven Sextonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08377446319000178050noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3121241378474731852.post-83366059585979813652014-09-25T20:37:00.000-07:002014-09-25T20:37:22.153-07:00Autumn Awakens the Raven<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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Hullo! No, I haven’t
disappeared, haven’t been carted off to be medicated and contained (although
there has been talk). I have simply been on somewhat of a hiatus dealing with health
and family issues and focusing on a few new directions under the guise of the
alter ego. The nice thing about that last bit: It may be of great help here at
the EVGA in the future. Let us hope, yes?<o:p></o:p></div>
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In my absence, I have not forgotten the blog. Nor have I
ignored the many wonderful artists and discoveries that started this little
project. I have, in fact, when not working (boohiss) or tending to other things
of a personal nature, been on the look out for more things to feature on the
site and collecting topics to blather on about. I do hope you will rejoin this
quiet, well-mannered asylum and enjoy your stay. <o:p></o:p></div>
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So enough of that and on to better things. I am back. Yes M’dears,
back. As in you will have to decide whether or not to put up with me
again. Now that Autumn is officially
here, I am awake again. Like many of us, that Season of the Bright Burny Thing
In the Sky is painfully oppressive and forces a type of aimless wandering
malaise. We trudge through socializing, find secluded, shaded beaches to enjoy
the roar of waves and travel primarily at night, for the few hours of true
darkness we are granted. Then comes Autumn in all of her fiery hues, spiced scents
and low rolling breezes. I will apologize in advance for the length of this
post and the fact that is pretty much NOT Victorian, however, it is in its own
right, about our darker nature, our Gothy nature. The topic arose two Sundays
ago when I was invited once again to join two wonderful ladies, Oly and Brenna
Mar, on their weekly BlogTalkRadio show Coffee with Oly and Brenna Mar. Some of
you may remember that I have been on before and we have discussed everything
from the Vampire and Gothic cultures to Victorianesque Hallowe’en and those who
have passed, but are still wandering about with us. I have included a link to
this most recent show. I hope you enjoy. I know I did, and I am definitely
looking forward to rejoining the ladies again October 12<sup>th</sup> to
discuss more Hallowe’en, Samhain and Autumny topics.<o:p></o:p></div>
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Allow me to elaborate a bit on the Allure of Autumn. The
year is really broken into two, not four, seasons, one outward facing and one
inward and reflective. And like all other creatures, we have a 13 moon
circadian rhythm that lies just beneath that which dictates our regular sleep.
All summer long we are social, communal creatures who are out and about, arms
open to that searing orb up above and our fellow man. (Keep in mind, this is a
general statement, not meant for 100% accuracy at an individual or even
sub-cultural level, but based on observations of loosely-referred-to humanity
in general) Spring is the culprit. It wakes us from our cozy beds at the end of
Winter, luring us out with the sweet scent of all things blooming and the happy
buzzing of bees hard at work creating that liquid gold we will covet in later
months, mixed with choice spices like a salve for our dark souls. But I digress
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In Spring we emerge, we breath deep, arms open wide, chests
out, heads back, breathing in an awakening world of fresh air and warmth from
above. The colours are limitless and inviting, even inspiring for some. I will not deny the beauty and almost
dream-like state that comes during Spring. It is similar to that first moment
of waking when dreams have not yet faded and the world takes a moment to appear
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Then comes Summer, hot on the heels of Spring. That blessed
burny thing wants its time, and will have it. We are now fully awake and in a
pretty good mood. The world is a bouquet and we breathe it in as that first cup
of coffee in the morning. We are still
in an embrace-the-world mood. The light is on, so we’d might as well go
exploring. But this, too, slowly drags to a close. Quite literally. <o:p></o:p></div>
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That first chill wind, the first golden falling leaf, that
first earthy whiff of low-borne breezes…. The Earth whispers again, and the
spirits join in the song. Like our ancestors, our thoughts turn to stocking up,
gathering in, comfort foods, harvest, gatherings with those closest to us and
the warm glow of candle light, hearth and all things Autumn. It envelops us
warm and lovingly like the blankets we giddily bring out of storage and scatter
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During this time we turn inward. Our socializing has a
deeper meaning. It is reflective. Rather than running out to greet Nature, we
bring it indoors with us. We look at the world differently, and we know that it
is looking right back at us. The trees sing a different tune, the flowers are
gone and yet Nature’s robes are even more colourful, more vibrant and more
amazing than ever. Life slows down a bit as opposed to the chaotic, constantly
going nature of the wind up in Spring and the constant go of Summer. It is in
this darkening time that we rediscover our true connection to all things
natural rather than simply enjoying them and their benefits, we touch, we
breathe it in and we rejoin it in our metaphoric rabbit burrows. We are
preparing for the blessed sleep of Winter. It’s chill winds lull us to sleep and there we
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But Autumn is so much more than preparation and reflection.
It is a time of celebration. Harvest celebrations are rampant and well
deserved. Then comes the reunion with our departed loved ones. Whether you
celebrate Samhain or All Hallow’s Eve, the spirit (Pardon the pun) is very much
the same. There is the reconnection, that thinning of the veil that allows us
to feel them, hear them, and bring them to the table with us in celebration, remembrance
and for many, for counsel. We recognize and rejoice in the diversity that the
crossing of the worlds brings. Reality blurs once the harsh light wanes, and we
are able to see what has always been there, but whitewashed in long hours of
glaring sun. We realize that we are not so alone, nor are we as restricted. It
is on what some might call flights of fancy that we, again, go inward and
discover, display and rejoice in our truer natures. <o:p></o:p></div>
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I won’t go into Winter yet. It isn’t time. Perhaps the small
mention above will suffice for now and we will revisit that wonderful, restful
time of year as it comes closer.<o:p></o:p></div>
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For now, I will say Thank You, a hundred times, Thank you,
for being patient, for returning after my less-than-excusable absence, and I
hope you enjoyed my Reawakening Ramble. Much is still to come. <o:p></o:p></div>
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Raven Sextonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08377446319000178050noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3121241378474731852.post-86868338190936470152013-10-02T22:24:00.000-07:002013-10-02T22:24:32.483-07:00Victorian Gothic Shopping: Anaboo Creations by Sylvia Smiser<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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We are officially in our favourite season, Autumn, when all things get a bit darker, colours are richer, the children of the night have a later (in the morning) curfew, and all my favourite artists are working their shadowy bustles and tailcoats off preparing for that absolutely BEST holiday of the year, All Hallow's Eve. Can you feel it? The air is different and the light is changing. There it is again, that low breeze with just a hint of chill in the air that whispers "Where did you pack the cableknits? Did you stock enough firewood? Where are the spices for the cider and mead?" Please tell me I'm not the only one those voices whisper to. If I were, you would not be here, and we would not be having this conversation. <br />
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I am rambling. I shouldn't. So let us get to the heart of the matter, shopping for the dark, the unique, the the brilliantly whimsical. I have been incredibly excited about featuring this fine lady's work. Why? Because my dark wee heart was stolen by one of her fabulous creations. Have I made you curious yet? Good, good. As most know, I am not a zombie or gore fan, although I do quite understand its place in all things Hallowe'en. Being a Victorian, my love is for all things vintage and that is exactly what we have here. What I am talking about are the brilliant Anaboo Creations of Sylvia Smiser. Ms. Smiser has been on my radar for quite some time. <br />
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What we have here is a self-taught artist with a gift for turning cloth and paperclay into delightful little beings of all sorts with a vintage feel, the authenticity of a true craftsperson and the feel of a little living being with a heart that will melt yours with a whimsical glance. What first got my attention, was a lovely little being named Ruthie the Raven, handcrafted and lovingly attired by Sylvia.<br />
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Sylvia has been featured in several doll publications such as Somerset Studios Gallery, Celebrate 365, Dolls Magazine and Art Doll Quarterly, and has a doll currently featured in the Autumn edition of Art Doll Quarterly.<br />
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Much to my black lacey glee, I was recently able to acquire one of her lovely baby bats. I am told his name is Dopey, though I was welcome to give him a new name. After admiring his adorable little face for a while, he reminded me too much of the lovingly simple little dwarf to call him anything else. Dopey is the adorable little bat at the bottom with his tongue sticking out<br />
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I do believe that at the time of this posting, he may have a sibling still looking for a home, and I would encourage checking them out, along with all of the other wonderful wee creatures at Anaboo Creations. So to help you all out, as always, I have included links below to guide you to Ms. Smiser's lovely works and her blog and Facebook page. I promise you will not be disappointed. I know I never am. <br />
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<a href="http://www.pfattmarketplace.com/anaboocreations.html">http://www.pfattmarketplace.com/anaboocreations.html</a><br />anaboocreationsbysylvia<br />
<a href="http://www.ebay.com/usr/anaboo_creations">http://www.ebay.com/usr/anaboo_creations</a><br />
<a href="http://www.etsy.com/shop/AnabooCreations">http://www.etsy.com/shop/AnabooCreations</a><br />
<a href="http://anaboocreationsbysylvia.blogspot.com/">http://anaboocreationsbysylvia.blogspot.com</a><br />
<a href="https://www.facebook.com/sylvia.smiser">https://www.facebook.com/sylvia.smiser</a><br />
<br />Happy shopping, adopting and perusing. I am now off to see what else lurks just past the shadows, waiting to be shared.<br />
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Keep it shadowed, spiced and Spooky. Until next,<br />
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Raven Sextonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08377446319000178050noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3121241378474731852.post-85835220362584540542013-10-01T21:01:00.000-07:002013-10-01T21:01:47.069-07:00Keen Halloween<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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Welcome, October. It is about time you arrived. We have much to talk about, you and I. So let us begin with how you made your entrance; with a weekend of Vintage Halloween shopping and visiting with wonderfully talented local artists at <a href="http://www.keenhalloween.com/" target="_blank">Keen Halloween. </a><br />
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This is year number two for this unique, fun event, organized by the lovely folks at SteamCrow. There were workshops, vendors with everything from adorable, angsty, quirky monsters, victims of a never ending commute, to embroidered velvet fezzes and delightful steampunk pumpkins. It should be of no suprise to anyone that I left with several packages and a mission to find yet more frames for my growing collection of whimsical, spooky art. <br />
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For now, allow me to elaborate a bit more about <a href="http://www.steamcrow.com/" target="_blank">SteamCrow</a> and their fantastic world of monsters, and their online saga, <a href="http://www.monstercommute.com/" target="_blank">Monster Commute</a>. I first came across the magic of SteamCrow several years ago at Phoenix ComiCon. As I entered the double-doors of the vendor floor, it was almost as if the heavens opened, light shone down and a choir of angels raised their voices in celebration. Then I realized it was probably cosplayers and walked in. There, directly in front of me was this enormous sign, "SteamCrow". Now as most of you who know me will immediately realize, with a name like "Raven", crows are not to be passed by. As I took in the flood of brilliant vintage images and posters featuring some of my favourite ghouls and a host of new ones, I was hooked. When I heard last year that Daniel Davis, the mustachio'd face behind the beasties, and his lovely counterpart Shawna, were organizing a Vintage Halloween event, I was there. I cannot wait to see how it turns out next year. My growing collection of SteamCrow art is going to need another wall (woe is me), but I am always excited to see which new artists will surface with just this jaded old crow's brand of whimsical spookiness and endearing creepiness. <br />
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So, October, you will be helping me to feature several of the fabulous artists we met this year as well as a number of other wonderful creators we had the pleasure of seeing again from last year. We will also be adding other artists and creative Halloweenish types to the list who are not local, but whose creations are right up our metaphoric alley. <br />
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And for now, I will let others share their love of Keen Halloween, SteamCrow and the wonderful community of spooky, colourful, delightful creators by sharing links to several recent articles, interviews and reviews.<br />
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<a href="http://theindependentcomiccongress.org/keen-halloween-founder-daniel-davis-shares-his-insights-about-this-unique-event/" target="_blank">The Independent Comic Congress</a> - A great article with a fun video interview with Daniel Davis of SteamCrow<br />
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<a href="http://www.eastvalleytribune.com/get_out/events/article_45668e68-255d-11e3-a919-0019bb2963f4.html" target="_blank">East Valley Tribune</a> - Another great article about bringing "classic" back to Halloween. <br />
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<a href="http://www.phoenixnewtimes.com/slideshow/keen-halloween-at-sano-fitness-studio-40447355/#1" target="_blank">Phoenix New Times</a> - A great slideshow of people and events at Keen Halloween. <br />
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As if the links above and throughout this blog post did little enough to point you in their direction, here are a few more so you, too, can get lost in the inspiring, year-round-Halloween that is SteamCrow. To Dan and Dawna Davis, kudos. My admiration is unending. <br />
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Facebook: <a href="https://www.facebook.com/steamcrow">https://www.facebook.com/steamcrow</a><br />
Twitter: <a href="https://twitter.com/steamcrow">https://twitter.com/steamcrow</a> - @steamcrow<br />
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With that, I leave you to peruse the monsters. Enjoy!<br />
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Until next, Keep it Spooky,<br />
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Raven Sextonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08377446319000178050noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3121241378474731852.post-66149088362237730432013-07-14T16:54:00.001-07:002013-07-14T16:54:50.022-07:00Back from the Abyss<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, "Times New Roman", serif;">Surprise. I haven’t disappeared or been swallowed into the
deep abyss, although at times it felt that way. This has been a long, but
productive hiatus, as much was thrown my way, and much I needed to step back
from in order to gain new perspective. But not for a moment did I forget EVGA
or the brilliant spirit of our Victorian Goths, my beloved Victorianesque
Hallowe’en and the dream of a finishing school for our Darkling Debutantes and Young
Nocturnal Nobles. And naturally, I have been rebuilding the list of fabulously
talented artists I hope to showcase and share with you in the very near future.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, "Times New Roman", serif;">Now to the best part of this post: A short announcement of
things to come. We have survived the longest day of the year and gleefully
welcome the shortening scourge of sunlight, so in celebration and in
preparation for the pinnacle of that day we celebrate year round, EVGA will be
featuring artists I had the pleasure of meeting at last year’s Keen
Halloween.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>(Look to the top right of my
page and you will see a link to the <a href="http://www.keenhalloween.com/" target="_blank">Keen Halloween</a> site) This year is the
second annual gathering of brilliant local artists, crafters, performers,
writers and teachers of all things spooky, fun and family friendly.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, "Times New Roman", serif;">What could be better than three days surrounded by
workshops, performances, characters and shopping? Know it will be right around
the corner from me. I can be a nuisance all weekend. So with that said, I am
off to get some more writing done, images gathered and a few other ideas off
the ground. And not to worry, I will still be adding to the Etiquette side of
the site with more opinions, observations and insight from deep, thoughtful
conversations and out-of-left-field questions from many of the non-lacey,
parasol-deprived, pastel-infused individuals I have encountered in my
adventures these last eight months away. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, "Times New Roman", serif;">Thank you kindly for your patience. It’s good to be back.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Georgia, "Times New Roman", serif;">Keep it Spooky, and if you cannot do that… keep it shrouded
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Raven Sextonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08377446319000178050noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3121241378474731852.post-76193306053765976962012-09-22T14:27:00.000-07:002012-09-22T14:31:06.646-07:00Vampires: Not Just for Hallowe'en<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
One of my favourite things about Hallowe'en is that the lure and scare of the vampire gets a bit more attention. As most of us know, Vampires are not a Hallowe'en creation, nor are they only around on October 31st. Thank Goodness, and Badness, and Darkness and Vampness. (Ok, that was corny, but it's been a long day, so bear with me.)<br />
But as they are such a wonderful part of the holiday, I decided to post links to some wonderful shops both online and off, as well as crafters from Etsy with all manner of Vampiric goodies to share. This most likely will not be my ONLY post on the topic. New retailers and creators pop up every day and I have entirely too much fun persuing their wares to keep it all to myself. I hope you enjoy. <br />
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<a href="http://www.feelthebite.com/index.html" target="_blank">Boutique du Vampyre</a> - Located in vampire-rich New Orleans, Louisiana, the BdV features all sorts of goodies as well as information on events, fangs, tarot readings and some great stories.<br />
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<a href="http://www.vampfangs.com/" target="_blank">Vampfangs</a> - An online source for fangs, contacts, costuming, props and all manner of vampire accoutrements.<br />
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<a href="http://www.vampireshop.co.uk/" target="_blank">The Vampire Shop</a> - Located in the UK but available to all of us via their online shop, featuring dark decor, scented oils, Alchemy Gothic jewelry and a list of other vampiric notions. <br />
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<a href="http://www.vampirefilmfestival.com/vampire/" target="_blank">Vampire Film Festival</a> - Not a shop, but rather a source of information regarding events, film, television, book reviews, casting calls and all things vampire on stage and screen. <br />
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And this leads us back to the wide world of Etsy and all of its wonderful artists: <br />
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<a href="http://www.etsy.com/shop/VictorianLowbrow" target="_blank">Madame Talbot's Victorian Lowbrow</a> -<br />
Wonderfully unique posters, dolls, ephemera .. well, just one of the best collections of the delights of the macabre Victorian. Several of her posters grace my walls year round including the piece below that greets everyone who comes through my front door. Her creatins can also be found at her website: <span style="font-family: Times, "Times New Roman", serif;"><a href="http://www.madametalbot.com/">http://www.madametalbot.com/</a> which is a visual delight in and of itself.</span><br />
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<a href="http://www.etsy.com/shop/FaesBlueMoon" target="_blank">Fae's Blue Moon</a> - <br />
Honestly, who doesn't need one of these adorable little creatures? Fae's Blue Moon is a collection of unique findings and handcrafted items perfect for any Victorian/Haunted/Vampire study.<br />
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<a href="http://www.etsy.com/shop/ShambleRamble" target="_blank">Shamble Ramble</a> - <br />
A wide variety of sparkling jewelry from Steampunk to Victorian, many with an Art Deco flair and others just perfect for Vampire soirees and "just because." After all.. Tuesday is a great day for wearing one's best. <br />
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<a href="http://www.etsy.com/shop/katmartinartist" target="_blank">Kat Martin Artist</a> -<br />
Absolute cuteness here. Kat Martin is actually a wonderful painter who has put a brilliant twist on some of your childhood (and current) favourites. I highly recommend her Etsy store for those who think "outside the box." I just had to share one of her flamingos because as a vampire, he is fabulous.<br />
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<a href="http://www.etsy.com/shop/amaretto" target="_blank">Amaretto Custom Stationery</a> - <br />
Handy for candy bags, party favours and Hallowe'en gift tagging, Amaretto has some delightfully antique-looking tags for any use you can dream up. Some are even on sticks for cupcakes, hors d'ouvres or more diminutive victims. The possibilities are endless..<br />
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<a href="http://www.etsy.com/shop/NacreousAlchemy" target="_blank">Nacreous Alchemy</a> -<br />
I have featured this fine lady's work on my blog before, and she continues to amaze and inspire me. <a href="http://ravensexton-evga.blogspot.com/2011/07/come-and-shop-with-me-nacreous-alchemy.html" target="_blank">Come and Shop With Me: Nacreous Alchemy 1 July 2011</a> From her jewelry to her shadowboxes and collage-style art, I can only say, Go Visit. Take your time and just enjoy. Everything is handmade and unique. <br />
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Vintage art on antique book pages makes these prints stand out and perfect for any library or office as well as for Hallowe'en decor that one may choose to keep up year round. <br />
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Now mind you, this is a simple sampling of the fantastic Vampire-themed treasures to be found, but I had to start here for both persona-favourites reasons (I know, bad grammar) and because they are not just for Hallowe'en. <br />
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As always, I hope you enjoy. I hope it inspires you to trudge off and see what else you can find and by all means, let me know if you come across goodies, or even make some yourself, that you would like to see featured on Etiquette and the Victorian Gothic Aesthetic. <br />
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Before I go, allow me to offer my apologies for not blogging more often, especially as we close in on All Hallow's. Now that much of my plundering and decor-hoarding is out of the way, I will have more time to continue featuring all the fantastic things and people who make this season great. <br />
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Keep it Spooky and I look forward to hearing from you!<br />
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Raven Sextonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08377446319000178050noreply@blogger.com7tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3121241378474731852.post-12007120541513495082012-09-07T22:59:00.000-07:002012-09-07T22:59:02.386-07:00An Etsy Hallowe'en<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
As most know, I am an Etsy addict. Part of my purpose on this planet is to share the creativity, fun and occasional twistedness that resides within artists and crafters who share their goods with the world, making it a bit more beautiful and bizarre. So in the spirit of Hallowe'en, that holiday that lives on at my house year-round, I wanted to feature 13 Etsy shops (more to come later) whose crafty goodness grabbed my attention and needed to be shared with all of you.<br />
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I have included a picture from each shop after a short description and link directly to their Etsy home. Please keep in mind that all images are the property of the respective shops and are just the tip of the dark, spooky iceberg. At the end I am also including a link to a group of artists I absolutely adore. Many of them have been kind enough to wander past my blog, share it with others, share their thoughts and allowed me to feature their work more indepth. The Etsy Dark Team features 384 of the most fabulous crafters, seamstresses, creators and artists over whose work I have had the pleasure of sighing, drooling (in a ladylike manner, of course) and splurging when the budget allows. I encourage you to check them out and get lost wandering their shops and reading about the individuals behind the delights.<br />
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Now to the first 13: (Isn't that such a lovely number?)<br />
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<a href="http://www.etsy.com/shop/AberrantAffixments" target="_blank">Aberrant Affixments</a> -
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<a href="http://www.etsy.com/shop/thedustyraven" target="_blank">The Dusty Raven</a> -
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif";">Vintage
art created from discarded items and wire art. Fantastic spider webs that will
last for ages, yard art, bird houses and other treats guaranteed to add
character to any haunted homestead. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<a href="http://www.etsy.com/shop/dahliahousestudios" target="_blank">Dahlia House Studios</a> - <br />
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featuring the beauty of nature and this old crow’s favourite time of year. </span><br />
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<a href="http://www.etsy.com/shop/farmfieldprimitives" target="_blank">Farm Field Primitives</a> -
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif";">Scented
blacked beeswax ornaments and primitive-style dolls and décor perfect for this
time of year. This little smiling guy won my heart.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<a href="http://www.etsy.com/shop/MinksPaperie" target="_blank">Minks Paperie</a> -
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif";">Silhouettes,
paper art and amazingly detailed luminaries to lend a warm, yet macabre air to
any Hallowe’en décor. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<a href="http://www.etsy.com/shop/Primigram" target="_blank">Primigram</a> - <br />
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papery, scented, fabric and hand-stitched or glows from within an old jar, it
is here. The nod to old Salem is a wonderful touch and the dolls are adorable. </span><br />
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<a href="http://www.etsy.com/shop/KasketKustoms" target="_blank">Kasket Kustoms</a> -
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif";">One of
my favourite shops for Day of the Dead and Hallowe’en-inspired jewelry and
trinkets.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Creepy and Cute both reside
here.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<a href="http://www.etsy.com/shop/swampwaterprimitives" target="_blank">Swamp Water Primitives</a> -
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif";">Another
fabulous primitive art shop with all manner of things hand-sewn, aged and
stuffed. These goodies absolutely scream “cabin in the woods” in the spookiest
sense.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<a href="http://www.etsy.com/shop/SandraArteagA" target="_blank">Sandra ArteagA</a> -
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif";">Paperdolls
and handcrafted trinkets. This Spanish artist has “disturbingly adorable” quite
literally down to an art. Even the pastries have faces! One would never want to
eat them, but may fear being eaten BY them. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<a href="http://www.etsy.com/shop/oldgoatprims" target="_blank">Old Goat Primitives</a> -
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif";">Yep!
Another primitive art shop. After all, what says Autumn, cozy, cuddly and
Hallowe’en creepy like handmade, antiqued one-of-a-kind decorations? From
witches to candy corn and a touch of Americana. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<a href="http://www.etsy.com/shop/JojosBootique" target="_blank">Jojos Bootique</a> -
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif";">Serious
Cuteness warning here. The specialty here is knitted baby/newborn caps in the
shapes of everything from pumpkins to reindeer, but what really caught my eye
were the wonderful Witches’ hats decorations. Each little ornate hat comes on a
stand to be showcased and adored.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<a href="http://www.etsy.com/shop/DecorClassicFlorals" target="_blank">Decor Classic Florals</a> - <br />
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wreath. My front door never goes without some form of dead foliage spilling
forth to startled the postman and confuse hummingbirds. The Black Hat Society
wreath is a must-see.</span><br />
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And if you do stop by, check out The Moonlight Muse and tell her I said Hi.<br />
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Now off with you. Go shop, get ideas, embellish your hauntings and get lost in the fun. And always remember to support small business, encourage creativity and if you know of a shop on or off Etsy that you would like to see featured here, please let me know. <br />
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Keep it Spooky.. and be warned... only 53 days until Hallowe'en!! <br />
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Raven Sextonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08377446319000178050noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3121241378474731852.post-8642484355066118912012-09-03T14:50:00.000-07:002012-09-03T14:50:48.663-07:00The Allure of the Haunted House<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif";">A couple
months ago I did a piece on the <a href="http://ravensexton-evga.blogspot.com/2012/07/haunted-romance.html" target="_blank">romance of haunted houses</a>.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>It got a lot of really good email
conversations started and I was recently asked to elaborate more on the topic.
Fortunately, between those conversations and others offline, etc., I have been given
a bit more to ponder and add to the subject. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif";">What is
it that draws us to old haunted houses? In this case, I am not speaking of
gore-fests and haunted corn fields that crop up (pardon the pun) all over from
September through the first of November, but the genuinely run-down, spooky old
homes and century-/centuries-old homes and hospitals that seem to beckon to us
as we pass by, sparking a sense of curiosity just as strong as the chill that
finds its way up our spines. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif";">This is
a conversation I used to find myself having this time of year, as the days
become shorter, breezes seem to hug the ground and leaves change and fall,
creating a beautiful crimson carpet and a sense of mystery fills the air.
However, these days, it is year round. Granted, this also makes me a very happy
person.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>When someone asks me “Why
haunted houses?”, I can’t help but respond with “Why not?” but I do not leave
it at that. If they have taken the time to ask, it’s fairly evident that the
same appeal exists for them. So I begin by asking what their first thought is
when they hear “haunted house.”<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Two
answers tend to be top of the list: 1. Images of great huge Victorian homes
with overgrowth, dead shrubs, worn paint and broken windows, and 2. Some memory
of an old, seemingly-abandoned house in the neighborhood where they grew up. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif";">Both
answers are accompanied by a slightly faraway stare, a glint in the eye and a
look of sparked excitement. There is a sense of adventure because these places
are spooky, but at the heart, there is a strong sense of sentimentality as they
revisit childhood memories and recall old friends about whom they may not have
thought in many years.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif";">Perhaps
this is primarily because I am a Sentimentalist writer, but I have yet to find
myself alone in noticing that one of the main attributes of any group of
individuals seeking to explore a haunted house, haunted historic building or
haunted hospital/asylum is Empathy. There is a sense of compassion, a need to
reach out and share the pain, fear and suffering of those believed to be
haunting these places.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>And perhaps in a
world where many feel so helpless to make any form of difference for more than
one or two living people at a time making their way through tragedies, and
where suffering seems the “norm” (How many times a day does your Facebook feed
flood with ‘woe is me’ posts over the most mundane stuff?), there is a desire
to reach across time to understand the very real suffering of another era, so
strong as to tether a soul to this world and to a place indefinitely. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif";">The
haunted house offers two things. It brings that sense of emotion and connection
to another soul very close and allows the sympathetic visitor to get a feel for
what someone went through. It also brings that momentary glimpse into the glory
of a past age. Now this is the real seduction behind haunted houses.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>When is the last time you stood in front of
an old dilapidated house and for a fleeting moment heard the laughter of
children, a glimpse of flowers blooming in the garden or heard the grinding of
tires on a gravel driveway? How often do you gaze at old sepia-toned photos of
people standing in front of an old house or building and for a split second the
figures seem to move? The sky turns blue there is life in the background. Most
of us do not look at haunted homes and buildings simply to be depressed or
scared. We see potential; the long-past heyday of the building, the spirit of
the place and the many lives that filled the windows with a warm glow on a soft
evening. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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a moment where many of us walk in the footsteps of the ghosts, reliving the
good days, cringing at the bad ones and mourning those last days with a sense of
<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>“Why?” and “What if?” Many people have
told me that they actually view ghosts as a good sign, and I tend to agree. It
is comforting, in a rather odd way, I suppose, to know that death is not so
final, and that we live on in memories and that our spirits can still touch the
hearts and souls of future generations of the living. Even when some of those “ghosts”
are simply energetic memories, it is a reminder that memory, emotion and
realization do not simply dissipate at the moment of death. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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that said, please let me ask that if you do ever visit a haunted house or
building, especially one with a history of suffering, and if your intention is
similar to those I have shared above, be respectful of those still there. They
are not there to do parlor tricks for you, though some may (and often do)
interact with the living.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>If you are
looking to challenge the more malicious presences, keep in mind that you are
bringing it on yourself if and when they do respond.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>But also remember that the human mind is a
powerful thing. Our imaginations are responsible for that initial fight or
flight reaction, the quickly beating heart, the jump or squeal at every sound
or gasp at each presumed “phantom breeze” that is just a breeze. Our peripheral
vision is intended to pick up movement, not detail and a plastic bag blowing in
the distance soon becomes a story of a spirit whooshing past, and a squirrel
becomes a ghost child hiding in the bushes. Then there is the fact that our
brains are wired to matrix and single out faces and words by filling in blanks
in repetitive patterns (leaves in trees, puffs of smoke or reflections in
windows).<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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your sense of adventure and sentimentality with knowledge and a touch of
skepticism. Revel in the beauty of old buildings and let your imagination run
wild with “what might have been” while keeping your feet planted firmly on the
ground. And if you happen to meet a ghost, you may understand why so many
people in haunted houses choose to cohabitate peacefully with their wispy
roommates. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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evening as I listen to the sound effects and music of DarkSiders II being
played in the next room, I find myself somewhere between Hallowe’en planning
and an odd (for anyone else) fascination with dolls. I will be the first to
admit that I am not a huge doll person in the traditional sense, but as I come
across more and more fabulous artists and see the dark, Victorian and spooky
whimsical creations that surpass regular dolls, I find myself entranced by
these shady little creatures. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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simply be rude of me to not share some of my findings. And where do you think I
have found them? One of my favourite online shopping addictions: Etsy.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> The title over each photo links to the item listing on Etsy, and from there, the artist's shop and other wonderful creations. Please take the time to check them out at length. </span>I hope you enjoy.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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Raven Sextonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08377446319000178050noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3121241378474731852.post-84916360840140492582012-08-14T20:45:00.000-07:002012-08-15T10:03:40.640-07:00Hallowe'en Blog Links: Part One<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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I am late in beginning this new type of post to the EVGA blog, and again blame Life's chaos and a tendency to have too many irons in the fire. Bear with me while I attempt to bring all the best Hallowe'en and Gothic finery of the net to you in the comfort of the EVGA parlour.<br />
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Enjoy the vintage Hallowe'en imagery and the beautiful artwork of Kris Dickinson at <a href="http://anostalgichalloween.blogspot.com/" target="_blank">A Nostalgic Halloween</a>.<br />
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A few "mood lighting" ideas from <a href="http://pumpkinrot.blogspot.com/2012/08/mood-lighting.html" target="_blank">Pumpkinrot.com</a> that are so simple I may wind up lighting up the entire yard and the neighbor's as well.<br />
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And who doesn't need Jack 'O Lanterns to suit every mood. Enjoy a visit to <a href="http://thepumpkinhollow.blogspot.com/2011/09/jackos-for-halloween.html" target="_blank">The Pumpkin Hollow</a>. The blog is a visual delight and links to their Etsy shop where "it's Halloween every day." <br />
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Rather fitting for a Victorian blog to feature a link to another blog that shares some BRILLIANT ideas for black and white costume ideas. Check out the images at <a href="http://www.365halloween.com/black-white-costume-ideas" target="_blank">365 Halloween</a> and prove that the world really was black and white in those old Noir films. <br />
Know of a blog with a Gothic Victorian, Gothic or Hallowe'en flair? Drop me a note at <br />
<a href="mailto:raven@stoneangelsgaze.com">raven@stoneangelsgaze.com</a>. I'd love to feature them.<br />
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Now back to my stroll through blogs, sites and DIY videos. Hope you enjoy!<br />
Keep it Spooky<br />
Raven<br />
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me this evening for getting out my soapbox, but as the “Etiquette” portion of
this blog is more about understanding how to recognize the best in oneself (how
can one present their best to the world if they won’t recognize it in their own
mirror?), this piece was just screaming to be written. It was inspired, to say
the least, both by a recent documentary and from personal experience. </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif";">Now that
the painfully verbose caveat is out of the way, allow me to begin. Yesterday I
was in my kitchen and heard a familiar voice carrying in from the television in
the next room. It was Jerry Hall, supermodel icon and former wife of Mick
Jagger.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I finished fixing my cup of
coffee and went in to watch. It was like a walk down memory lane as the role
models and icons of my era and those before mine sat on camera sharing their
memories of an industry that treated many like cattle, made demigods of them,
and in the cases of those who modeled in the 40s and 50s, broke ground on a
widespread cultural level.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>There are few
things more moving than listening to China Machado tell a story of having met
her inspiration, Josephine Baker, of telling Ms Baker “thank you” only to be told
“Thank you” in return. For anyone who knows their history, they understand the
underlying meaning and will feel the tears well up in their eyes just as they
did on camera with Ms. Machado. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif";">As I
listened to the heroines of my day share their stories of self-evaluation,
insecurity and the reality of an industry that does little if anything to help
a woman feel beautiful while holding them up as the epitome of beauty, I had flashbacks to my own teen years when I was
enrolled in modeling school to “build” my self-esteem.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>It was a nice affirmation many years later to
hear these women talk about how they found that self-esteem came from within,
how many never thought themselves beautiful, although to the rest of us they
were goddesses. The opinions vary on every topic from botox and plastic surgery
(not popular with most) to aging gracefully and the importance of keeping one’s
feet firmly on the ground. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif";">I think
back on the girls I attended classes with. We learned proper posture (almost
nonexistent these days), sitting, standing, entering and exiting a car,
ascending and descending stairways in obscenely high heels without looking down, how to walk the
runway, and how to change clothes faster than Clark Kent in an automated phone
booth. Among other things. We learned that the industry has insanely high
standards for many reasons, and that most of us would have an easier time
making it into catalogues than onto a runway, and it ALL had to do with size
and proportion.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I was only mildly
crushed to find out I was too short to be taken seriously on a runway, though
one of my classmates was distraught almost to the point of
institutionalization. I was “too curvy” for catalogue and my list of options
continued to be pruned methodically from there. The kindest words I heard were “You
have great eyes and cheekbones…beyond that…”<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>To me it was a relief. To the line of others in the room with me, it was
devastation. I will never regret the experience. It taught me much about myself and gave me the tools to carry myself with confidence while still working on gaining some. It taught me self-reliance and the brilliance and wisdom of subtlety and humility.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif";">Keep in
mind that back then there were no sites like Model Mayhem, no webcams, and jobs
were secured by paying a professional photographer to do composite headshots
that included a short list of measurements and other personal information, then
either working through an agency or watching the listings for calls for models
then actually auditioning. Amazing, no? No emails, no texting, no free profile
online full of demi-nudes and “lingerie” shots in Walmart underwear taken with
a $30 webcam.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Don’t get me wrong, there
are just as many up-and-coming photographers who are willing to work with
up-and-coming model-hopefuls as both still need to build their portfolios and
show what they are (or are not) capable of, and many photographers are honest
individuals with real talent.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Do I put
these people on the same level as Carol Alt and Calvin Klein? No. The world
needs models AND make up artists AND photographers AND artists at all levels.
This does not make a model with more than three published photos a “supermodel”.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> Supermodels and world-class photographers started out as novices, too. </span><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif";">But at
all levels, the same lessons, experiences and challenges exist. I would
recommend this documentary to every aspiring model out there, even though I
have to wonder how much weight the words of these legends would have with the
18-to-twentysomethings modeling today who may not even know their names. These
are the women who overcame racism, survived drugs, a brutal industry and a
fickle, sometimes scathing fan base to thrive as legends, role models, and examples of aging
gracefully, beautifully… timelessly. These are women who personify Glamour. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif";">So why
did I go into all of this on a Victorian Gothic blog? Two reasons. Our Genre
personifies for so many the epitome of Grace, Beauty, Glamour and Etiquette.
There is the promise of a confidence and civility that many feel is lost in
this day and age. I have said it countless times, and will continue to say it:
Nothing is lost so long as someone remembers it once existed and they long to
have it back. Our models showcase glamorous clothing and ethereal faces that
make the observer gasp and admire. They have been through the mill like most
others, questioning their size, their appearance, whether or not they were “too
over the top” and a plethora of other questions about their marketability and
worth. Many have had to deal with creepers, those pseudo-photographers who
think “All goth chicks are freaks” and assume a model will strip and “spread ‘em”
just because she’s Goth. I’ve known one or two of these photogs to come close
to eating their cameras. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif";">I have
had the pleasure of hearing from many models and a number of artists over the
years, more so the last year or so because of the blog and other projects, and
every conversation has been insightful.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>A few have been a bit perplexing, but then while I am very observant, I
cannot, nor claim to see through the eyes of others. That said, I offer a few
of the insights shared with me:<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif";">If you
are being pressured to do a type of pose or shoot you are uncomfortable with,
Don’t.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>A reputable photographer will be
up front about their project and will respect your boundaries. There will be
other opportunities. If you are being told “this is it”, you are dealing with a
manipulator. Once you put something out there that is not you, you cannot take
it back.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif";">Never
let anyone tell you what you “should” be doing in terms of type of modeling.
With that statement comes this: Get to know what is out there. Ask questions,
do your research and find what is You. You will be offered lots of advice from “You’d
be great at…” to “… type of modeling isn’t REAL modeling.”<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>We all have our preferences, but they should
not dictate how others model. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>The bottom
line is to use your common sense and be true to yourself.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>A bit of foresight is important. What will
you be able to look at 10, 20 or 30 years down the road without cringing? Will
it be a simple chuckle and cringe or a deal breaker?<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>I have yet to meet an aspiring model who went
into a shoot or project thinking “I want to do something now that I’ll regret
forever.” That is quite understandable. No one can live in fear and playing it
so safe that even their guardian angels yawn. However, that image out there is
you, no one else. Make it yours. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif";">Ok, enough
preaching from me. I am including a link to the HBO Documentary I spoke of
earlier. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span><o:p></o:p></span></div>
<o:p><span style="font-family: Calibri;"> </span></o:p><br />
<a href="http://www.hbo.com/documentaries/about-face-the-supermodels-then-and-now/index.html#/documentaries/about-face-the-supermodels-then-and-now/interview/timothy-greenfield-sanders.html" target="_blank">About Face: Supermodels Then and Now</a><br />
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Now I am off to continue perusing the stack of fabulous Hallowe'en blogs, sites and pinboards. Much to share! Coming soon..<br />
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Keep it Spooky, with Style... of course. <br />
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Raven<br />
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Raven Sextonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08377446319000178050noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3121241378474731852.post-27222986093138895642012-07-25T20:21:00.001-07:002012-07-25T20:25:03.237-07:00Ruffles, Lace and Otherworldly Butlers, Oh My<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif"; font-size: large;">Now for
a bit of fun involving eye and ear candy.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> I realize this</span> post is
uncharacteristically short for me, but I just had to share and the artistry involved needs none of my utterly verbose elaboration. </span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif";"><span style="font-size: large;">Many are aware that
I have long been a fan of the artwork of the anime series Black Butler, but had
only recently had the time (and attention span) to begin watching it. I cannot
begin to express how much I love the rich and almost decadent imagery of the
show. The costuming and backdrops are already the stuff of which my odd dreams are made, but then to fold in a supernatural butler with the patience of Job and
abilities that are matched only by his charm and wit automatically puts it to the top of my Adore List. With all the fun of an
anime production, this show has fascinating storylines and a bit of depth I had
not expected.<o:p></o:p></span></span><br />
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif";"><span style="font-size: large;">Then
there is the music. Hypnotic, classically inspired, darkly ambient and
beautifully done.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Allow me to share Kalafina,
a Japanese group formed in 2007 whose song “Lacrimosa” is used as the closing
theme from episode 14 on. While the music is amazing, the ladies of Kalafina are visually
stunning in concert, and you can certainly see the style of Black Butler in
their costuming.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span><o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif";"><span style="font-size: large;">Makes me
want to go shopping… in fact, while you are enjoying the music, I think I
shall. Stripes, lace, ribbons and boots… I have a lot of work to do. And not to
worry, I have plenty more I will be writing about soon. <o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif";"><span style="font-size: large;">Keeping
it Spooky with a heavy dose of visual and aural decadence.<o:p></o:p></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif";">I have
been asked several times to do a piece on what seems a simple act, but is
really a huge stumbling block for most. Very few of us know how to accept a
compliment gracefully. It is, sadly, a social and personal skill that must be
learned through repeated experiences and the example of others who are at peace
with themselves enough to make it look easy. The question floating about at
this point is most likely “What does it matter? It’s no big deal.” Actually, it
can be and usually is. How you accept complimentary words from others says a
lot about you.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>No matter how you mean
the response you give, the real impression comes from the spirit in which it
was given. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif";">There
are three primary reasons why anyone would give a compliment:<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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</span></span></span><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif";">The
giver genuinely means it. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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</span></span></span><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif";">An
icebreaker to initiate conversation with a stranger. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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</span></span></span><span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif";">A
means to have an “in” with someone, gain trust, manipulate, etc.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif";">Regardless
of the reason, what is important is what you do with it. As you are always
mindful of how you present yourself, keep in mind that your response says more
than the compliment. A sincere smile and “Thank you” is all that is needed. At
this point, never belabour the conversation by elaborating or justifying the subject
of the compliment. And certainly NEVER belittle or minimalize the compliment.
This is a good way to ruin the good feeling meant to be conveyed by a genuine
word of praise or an ice breaker and makes you appear insecure or possibly
arrogant. Allow me to demonstrate:<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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1: “What a beautiful necklace.”<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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2: “Oh this? Thanks. It’s just something I picked up at a flea market.”<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif";">Person 2
has just put the thought out there that Person 1’s compliment is of no value,
or that they are a poor judge of style. Nice move. It may well be an attempt at
being “cool” by Person 2, but it comes off as arrogant and borders on
rude.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif";">Let’s go
with another… one of my favourite eyeroll inducers: The attempt at appearing
humble.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif";">Guy: “Wow,
it’s been forever. You look great!.”<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif";">Girl: “Me?
No way… I look horrible today. I’ve been cleaning house/at the gym/etc..”<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif";">The girl
may think she is being coy or appearing humble. She is not. She is basically
telling him she does not believe him, that his compliment either makes her
uncomfortable (Great way to make him feel like a creeper), or that she is
fishing for more praise.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span><o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif";">Now for
the one guaranteed to make everyone within earshot incredibly ill at ease, the
nervous laugh and data dump.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif";">Girl 1: “I
really enjoyed your presentation at the luncheon.”<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif";">Girl 2: “Really?
I thought I totally screwed it up. I’ve been working on it for weeks and had
all these visual aids prepared, but forgot to bring them. But it seemed people
were ok with it. Luckily… (Ok, I’ll stop here. Yes, this is based on a real
exchange and the girl didn’t stop talking for a good two minutes. Not once did
she think to say “Thank you” for the kind words.)<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif";">Again, smile
sincerely and simply say “Thank you” then leave it at that. Do not forget to
make eye contact. This conveys your sincerity and gives them a clue as to
whether you are open to continuing the conversation or not. If you immediately
look away, or do not make eye contact at all, you have just dismissed them and
killed any potential conversation. If the person giving the compliment wants
more information, they will ask. If you were nervous, it is quite fine to admit
that if it is someone who knows you. Not the wisest move with a stranger. They have
paid the compliment because you did well and carried yourself with confidence.
That, I would assume, was your intention. Do not ruin your own success. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif";">Now the
one that always cracks me up: the schmooze:<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif";">Person 1:
“I really LOVE your work. I’m always sharing your art with my friends.”<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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2: “Thank you.” (with smile, of course)<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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giving the compliment is attempting to snow you, they have lost their control
over the conversation and the ability to keep feeding you a series of lines. Now
this one does require a bit of ability in reading people to tell whether the
compliment feels genuine or not. If you are not sure, you have been gracious
and given yourself breathing room to observe them further and get a better feel
for the option of talking more with this person. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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having been said, it is not just about how you are perceived by others.
Learning to accept a compliment graciously has huge benefits for the receiver.
In this day and age, with all the mixed signals about arrogance, humility and a
lack of role models (Not to say there aren’t some wonderful ones out there),
many people are completely unnerved when paid a compliment. It may be a
self-esteem issue or a simple mistrust of others, so why not learn the best way
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undermine a possibly genuine compliment that gives one a glimpse at themselves
through others’ eyes? What could do more to help self-esteem than finding out
there is something others recognize and admire? And why waste a perfectly good
compliment just because some snot didn’t really mean it? It did mean they were
looking for some way to address you, so you must have been noticeable, and for
those around you, it was obvious you maintained control and did not hand your
power over to the git. If they meant to make you uncomfortable, they did not.
If they meant to draw attention to something they thought you were unsure of,
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end of the day, you, as receiver, have all the power to consider the
compliments you are paid or disregard them. But that is your personal decision
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif";">Let’s
face it, my spooky friends, we have ALL had our rants about what a rude world
this has become, and how people have become very self-centered, narcissistic
and narrow-of-vision. If someone takes the time to pay a compliment, let it
feed the positive in the world. Encourage it by being positive AND Gracious in
return. Pay compliments as well as accepting them graciously. And ONLY be
sincere when you do. Keep it simple and keep it kind. Gushing tends to put
people off, understandably. Set the example for what you wish to see more of in
this world. It does no good to complain if you are unwilling to be part of a
solution. No matter how meager it may seem to you, to those in your immediate
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before I close this novella, allow me to address a behaviour I hinted at
earlier: Those who fish for compliments.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>Have you ever told someone “I love your hair/blouse/whatever..” only to
receive “Do you really think so? I thought it looked flat today.” Red flag
here. If you have given the compliment once, you should not have to repeat it.
A little reassurance in the form of a “Yes” or a nod should be sufficient. But
we have all encountered these individuals. They are the ones who, upon
receiving a compliment, will throw more personal information, usually self-debasing,
in an attempt to be told how great/ok/beautiful they are in an assuring way.
This is very draining and very rude. Now I do recognize that many of us are
surprised at an initial compliment and may respond with “Do you really think so?”…
break the habit now. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Yes, even someone
as polite as me has been known to respond with “Now that you mention it, no.”<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Granted, this is ONLY appropriate if the
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif";">Once you
have learned to accept compliments graciously, it becomes easier to tell those
givers who mean it, as well as being able to gauge those to whom you can pay a
compliment who truly needed it. They may fall prey to the bad responses, but
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif";">Homework
1: Pay someone a genuine compliment today; Perhaps one a day for the next
week.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Note how they respond, but do not
concern yourself too much with getting the “right” response. Give it freely and
without strings. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif";">Homework
2: Be mindful of the compliments you receive from others and pay close attention
to how you respond. Remember: Smile sincerely, make eye contact, say “Thank you”,
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<span style="font-family: "Times New Roman","serif";">And
finally…. Let me know how it goes. In the end, it is not about how many
compliments you get. If you are happy with yourself, they are simply nice
boosts to the day and affirmations that you are on the right track. Never be
dependent on compliments and praise, but DO be appreciative of them. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Times, "Times New Roman", serif;">3. T</span><span style="font-family: Times, "Times New Roman", serif;">hose who are drawn to the romance of the haunted house. It is this third category I will attempt to describe, both from experience and from the many wonderful perspectives that have been shared with me over the years. </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Times, "Times New Roman", serif;">The usual story behind any haunted house involves a tragic loss. There is an air of romance in this that draws most people.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>With the belief that ghosts are most often the result of a death too early, too violently and the heartrending emotions that attach themselves to a location draw the more romantic of us to a place like moths to a flame.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>There is a special place in the heart that may connect with that sense of loss.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>There is a flicker of hope that love does not end at death, that we are not forgotten once we go, and that the attachments we build in life can transcend the voyage into death. </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Times, "Times New Roman", serif;">There is also a longing, much like many of our historian friends endure, that brings us to want to reach out and find something tangible that connects us to another time, long before now, when perhaps life was simpler, grander, a time that certainly has been romanticized in book and film. It is one thing to reach out and touch an antique chest of drawers, an old water pitcher or run the tips of one’s fingers over the delicate silk of a wedding gown one or more centuries old, but just imagine the thrill of coming face to spectral face with the wearer of that gown, the bearer of the water pitcher, the craftsman who first put tool to wood and created that beautiful bit of furniture. What if that apparition were self-aware enough to impart insight, memories and emotions tied to the items? </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Times, "Times New Roman", serif;">It is in no way difficult for a hopeless romantic to walk the leaf-strewn and dusty halls of an old house and imagine themselves surrounded by brightly lit wall sconces, the sounds of a household alive and bustling with perhaps a maid scurrying by with an armful of linens or the lady of the house calling her children down to dinner. It is quite easy for a romantic to stand before an abandoned orphanage and hear the sounds of children laughing, perhaps catching a dilapidated swing move out of the corner of their eye, wondering for a moment if it is the influence of a slight wind or if one of the prior residents is still there, watching, looking for a playmate, or longing for new parents that never came. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"></span>The heart squeezes slightly, mourning little souls that died of illness, who sat staring out windows for homes they dreamt of but never would get, and occasionally, the tragic death of a wee one down an old and forgotten well, or a hundred other tragic scenarios.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Times, "Times New Roman", serif;">Then…. There are those of us who, after many years of odd dreams, or a sense of being out-of-time-and-place, tend to feel a longing to find the once place that we know we have not seen in this lifetime, but our spirit seems to swear exists. For those who subscribe to the concept of past lives, perhaps there is some fragment that gives them pause to ponder the house from the perspective of the ghost. Wandering quietly, sadly, mournfully, or blissfully unaware of the situation until by some odd chance, peace comes and here they find themselves again amongst the living, but with that tiny thread of connection to the old place. Perhaps the old place itself does not wish to be forgotten. </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Times, "Times New Roman", serif;">Long before paranormal investigations, there were Spiritualists with séances and table-tipping parties. Before then, it was not uncommon to know a place was haunted, to accept that this is a part of life and death, and like many cultures, learn to simply live with the “others” in a home. They were as much a part of the structure and the family as any relative. We prayed for the angry ones amongst us to find peace, left offerings to appease unhappy souls and only in extreme cases, called in help to send them away. </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Times, "Times New Roman", serif;">I know there are many who hope to find ghosts in old houses. It is a continuation of life “as it was” and brings with it a richness that comes only with the sentimental longing for the lessons and beauty of the past. It also brings a reminder that life is not always “fair” and reinforces in our hearts, that we have not lost sight of our own compassion. It helps us to imagine what we might have done in their stead, and to learn from those who carried on, but whose grief lingered. </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Times, "Times New Roman", serif;">I hope you will all join me in continuing to remember and honour the past and those who bear the insights and lessons we can learn from.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Romance is not dead while there are hearts reaching out to our predecessors and hands preserving the tangible connections to them. </span></div>
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I do love the power of coincidence, especially when it comes to giving me a topic for this blog. While I do often use the phrase "Everything for a reason", that does not mean I believe in indisputable or unchangable fate, just as I do believe that sometimes something really IS a coincidence, but in this case, like many others, I can make it into a sign to run with an opportunity, and here it is. <br />
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A very random conversation lately had been on replay through my mind this morning regarding the topic of tattoos. The underlying message was a bit more offputting, but I will start with the ink. In a nutshell, having been asked if I "had ink", my response that No, I do not, was met with a look of mild disdain and more than slight superiority. To be honest, this made me curious, so I asked why the look. This launched a sermon about how I "must" hate tattoos and people who have them (this from a stranger who obviously had not met 80% of my friends and acquaintances with the most fabulous work). I chuckled and replied "Then you must really hate people without ink." This drew an even more indignant response in the form of a poorly suppressed snort. At this point, I assumed the conversation would end. My mistake. As I returned to my business (shopping), I was asked "Why?". Ok, I'll bite. "Why what?".."What do you have against tats?" I do so love assumptions. So in less than a handful of words, I clarified that I have nothing against tats, nor those who get tats that have some personal significance. I've just had no personal urge to do so. <br />
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"Well, you know... you'd attract more guys if you had tats. They think they're hot."<br />
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Now we have crossed into getting tats to express one's individualism to getting one to broaden the scope of one's fishing hole. And my new acquaintance has assumed once again. This time..that I am fishing. And that I should give up my individuality, do something that is not Me, to attract someone, and even better... that I want to attract someone who would prefer me for something that is not Me. To me, that sounded like another assumption..that guys who prefer women with tats, only look at the tats. Let's not underestimate them. That is not just assumption. It is rude.<br />
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Needless to say, this was the end of my conversation. I just cannot justify talking in circles. But, I am grateful for the experience because it gave me something to blog about. Now about that coincidence. After sitting down to read through some of my favourite blogs today, toward the top of my list was a blog entry by Amy Asphodel (Stripy Tights and Dark Delights) on the topic of tats and how they are (and aren't) really perceived by the public, as well as many other great points.<br />
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Just like being Goth, and anything else that sets an individual or a group apart, never assume or generalize about how that individuality is perceived. Just Be Yourself.. revel in it and respect those not like you as you would prefer they respect you for being who and how you are.<br />
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Raven</div>Raven Sextonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08377446319000178050noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3121241378474731852.post-10887762896850618302012-06-30T17:41:00.001-07:002012-06-30T17:41:47.241-07:00Be Grand<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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Just a few observations from having observed people from all walks who have climbed the ladder to success, fallen off, attempted to knock it out from others and a few who stood at the bottom of the ladder thinking "I can't do it." The common theme is that most of us aspire to Greatness, and we each have our own perspective on what "Being Grand" is and how to get there. None of these are quotes unless one can quote herself. I may, from time to time, post additional short lists like this. <br />
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<li>If you aspire to grand things, Be grand in the things you do.</li>
<li>If you wish to be treated as a lady, Be a lady.</li>
<li>If you wish to be seen as a gentleman, be a gentleman.</li>
<li>Carry yourself well, Bear your presence proudly, Use your words humbly and your sincere nature generously.</li>
<li>Beware the names and titles you bear. They become heavy and difficult for others to see past. </li>
<li>Realize that you set your footprint with two words: "I am." But you build bridges with the two, "You are?"</li>
<li>Know that you have no limits, but remain mindful that when you push others aside for your own expansion, you build a cage around yourself. Eventually there is a lot of "You" to stuff behind the bars you put erect between yourself and the world. </li>
<li>It is not lonely at the top. It is what you fill it with. There are countless groupies, Yes Men and hangers-on eager to start bowing, scraping, kissing your ring and kissing your behind. No, it is not lonely. It is Life's largest lesson in Discernment. </li>
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Now to go find a cool spot in the shadows, observe and try to get past this Summertime malaise. You are all welcome to join me. There is fresh ice and water in the decanter and sugar cubes perched precariously over faceted glasses of absinthe.<br />
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Raven</div>Raven Sextonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08377446319000178050noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3121241378474731852.post-23594607325555312802012-05-06T10:01:00.001-07:002012-05-06T10:01:50.889-07:00Come and Shop with Me: Strange Studios<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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It has been a long while since I had a chance to feature a shop, so I am very happy to get back in the swing of things with a delightful Etsy shop called Strange Studios. Artist Lisa Snellings brings to life the most hauntingly adorable collection of poppets I have come across in a long time. <br />
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Now what is so Gothic Victorian about these little guys? Have a look. Many remind me of adorable harlequin-like Italian puppets one might find in Grandmother's keepsake trunk in the attic, or sitting quietly in an obscure little antique shop. One can easily picture one of these little figures sitting on a bedside dresser in the bedroom of a 19th century child, a quiet little friend and favourite companion.<br />
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Each poppet has its own distinct personality and an almost childlike gaze from beneath little pointed hats. Their whimsical robes with ruffled collars make them all the more endearing, while subtle, and not-so-subtle accents make a more pointed statement. In some cases, macabre, such as the Mouse Skull sculpture, to the darkly thought-provoking Gas Mask Poppets, these little characters can really touch even the darkest of hearts (speaking from experience here, as you know). <br />
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Now for those who have more than their fair share of dust collectors and are fresh out of room in the curio cabinet in the foyer, Ms. Snellings' lovely little creatures are also featured as art cards and prints just demanding a new home in an ornate frame and a prime location where they can be a part of the family.<br />
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Personally, I recommend at least one of each. Who doesn't need a wonderful image on their wall, like a tiny doorway to a fun, shadowy, imaginative world where poppets fly on raven's backs, or talk to wee birds in a snow drifts while a diminuitive statuette of a poppet in bee clothing stands nearby as if having just stepped through that door to keep you company.<br />
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So treat yourself and spend some time with Strange Studios' lovely little friends and see which ones wordlessly speak to you. I promise you will not be disappointed. I have included a link to her Etsy shop below, as well as one to her website and blog, where you can learn all about the Poppets and the artist.<br />
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Etsy Shop: <a href="http://www.etsy.com/shop/Strangestudios?ref=seller_info">http://www.etsy.com/shop/Strangestudios?ref=seller_info</a>#<br />
Artist Website: <a href="http://poppetplanet.com/">http://poppetplanet.com/</a><br />
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Enjoy! And remember M'Dears..... Keep it Spooky.<br />
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With a huge nod and thanks to the Gothic Tea Society (<a href="http://gothicteasociety.blogspot.com/">http://gothicteasociety.blogspot.com/</a>) and Michelle Phan, I just had to pass along this wonderful instructional video. I had seen it fly by on my FB feed some weeks ago, but not until today did I have a moment to sit and watch it. Enjoy!<br />
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One of the primary reasons many come to my blog is because of a love of the past. (Haunting, spooky stuff is just a bonus that goes with the territory) Most of the people I hear from and spend time with have a deep and abiding love of the past. We love the old houses, buildings, landmarks, bridges and neglected landscapes that allow us to escape to a time when perhaps they were new and shiny, full of the sounds of laughter, music and life in general. We easily imagine 1920s "liberated" women with their pin curls and cloche hats, or bustle skirts, parasols and gentlemen in suitcoats and bowlers or top hats. Some more adventurous souls picture a Depression Era couple in plain brown cotton, aged white shirts and tattered straw hats, their shoeless children knocking cans down a dirt road with a stick or swinging on a rope out into the middle of a pond. </div>
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Whatever it is we envision, it is the sensation of being transported back to another "simpler" or more elegant time, imagining the voices of those who came before and seeking some tangible connection to that time. Something I learned from an early age is that history is far better when it comes in story form from those who were there. And this brings me to the topic of this post. </div>
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Recently I posted a photo and a link to my Facebook page about an online community called "The Forgotten Ones: Compassion for the Elderly." Very few of us have gone throughout life without being touched by the challenges of caring for an elderly family member or friend. Many of the people I hear from work in some capacity with the aged. We have shared stories of the sweet and the angry, the kind and the difficult to work with. Age brings its own frustrations that the younger caretakers do have a hard time understanding, or keeping in mind in the middle of a bad day for an elderly patient. For so many of us, it seems so hard to imagine how countless elderly citizens go neglected and forgotten, yet we already know in our hearts that it is a daily fact. It tugs at the heart strings, but in most cases, becomes the "unspoken problem" for which no one has a solution. </div>
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Now for the reality check. Yes, growing old (and I mean VERY old) is very different from finding one is terminally ill. When a younger person is diagnosed with a terminal illness, it is a shock. It is often very cut-and-dried: There is a prognosis and no treatment, just a list of symptoms and conditions to look forward to and to prepare to deal with before the end. Or, there are treatments and a ray of hope, however large or small, and perhaps the disease can be held off or erradicated. Until then there is a list of symptoms and conditions to look forward to and to prepare to deal with. </div>
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Growing old is not a disease, no matter how much some may say. It is, quite simply, the reward and accomplishment that too many never get the chance to experience. Having buried too many friends and relatives before they reached the age of 40, and in some cases, before their 20s, I, like many, can guarantee that these people would have made fabulous old people. We have worked through our feelings of "They were robbed" and some are still working through that. My blessings and thoughts to each and every one of you. In the case of an elderly relative, the difficulty is more emotional than anything else. It is very difficult to see someone who was once the decision-maker, the nucleus of the family, and the strength behind the family slowly becoming childlike due to physical, and sometimes mental, deterioration. These are more of the realities of living to an old age, but they are not the end. Always keep in mind that as the body begins to fail, it does not mean the mind is gone.</div>
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Now I will let you in on a little secret; One many of you may already know. Even though the body is infirmed, a brilliant, acute, sharp mind is trapped inside. That mind is a veritable storehouse of amazing stories, first-hand accounts of historic events that most of us can only read about and vaguely imagine, and experiences to challenge and inspire the imagination. Unlike a book, however, that record cannot be put on a shelf until it is convenient to call on it. It is only with us for a short time, only to be lost forever once that lady or gentleman passes, then their wisdom, and their example are lost to us forever. </div>
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I could very easily blame our current drive-thru American society for the disregard and disposal of our elderly. Studies have shown the change in trends in this country and others, fed both by the glamourization of "retirement living" and a mentality of entitlement, where parents who were once part of the nuclear family, are now a burden, or "in the way" as grown children have children of their own and establish their own families, however, the flip side to that is the mixture of cultures in this world, who now live most often side by side, holding fast to old values that included keeping elderly parents and other family members at home through their twilight years. These families are giving their children the gift of legacy, and their elders the gift of a rich life of being loved clear through to and beyond the end.</div>
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I have been teased about a habit of mine. Upon noticing an elderly couple in public, dressed in their finest, a throwback to five or more decades ago when it was the standard for their generation, I stop and smile, and at times am moved to comment how "cute" they are. The comment I get is "You think all old people are cute." My rebuttal is pretty simple, not all, but I do see more than age spots, slow steps and the signs of living decay and deterioration. These things are definitely in-your-face reminders of our own mortality. There is something almost terrifying to many to realize that this could well be them one day. But these people have outgrown the insecurities of "losing their looks" and having to fit the expectations of society. (A little sidenote: "Society" does not set expectations. Individuals conjure their own limits based on what they believe others expect of them. Surprise..."society" has better things to do, and these individuals are not the center of the universe.)</div>
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I hope many of you will join me in embracing the past, seeking it through historical study, honouring old ways, its preservation through antiques and properties, but also through the eyes of our Living History, our elderly. Bring joy to someone who may well be feeling forgotten or insignificant, by simply listening to their stories and showing them respect and compassion. I guarantee that in return, you will be touched on a very deep level and come away far richer. </div>
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Recently I saw a FB post that was so brilliantly put that it made me recall a conversation I have quite often with people. The post said something along the lines of "We want to leave a better world to our children. How about leaving better children to the world.?" I cannot begin to express how thrilled I was to see this statement, not because I have anything against today's children, but because I honestly feel bad for them. The last few generations of children have been robbed of the guidance and role models of their predecessors in exchange for an insulated, feel-good laboratory study in positive reinforcement. Parents have been told for the last two decades, "Encourage your children. Tell them there is nothing they can't do." But don't let them try in the off chance they may fail, or rig the competition so that everyone wins (a hollow victory). Well, the failure is a valuable lesson, and at some point, Life will toss it their way again. <br />
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As wont as I am to avoid generalizations of any kind, and out of respect to the countless excellent parents and fabulously well-rounded kids out there of all ages, I will include this disclaimer: Not all children are insulated from the world's pains, and much to my endless delight, there are countless parents out there who will stand toe-to-toe with a fit-throwing offspring, regardless of age, and remain calmly unrelenting in the rules they've set for the good of that same spawn. <br />
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So in that spirit, I offer a few simple thoughts and steps to that "Better world" I hear so many people say they want to leave to their children. There is nothing new here, no sage words of profound wisdom, simply tried-and-true methods, simplified as I prefer the only complications in my world to be the plot of a good movie, or the twisted, calculating minds of my dearest friends.<br />
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<span style="font-family: Times, "Times New Roman", serif;">“Be the change you wish to see in the world.” Ghandhi<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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</span></span></span>Build it with them<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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</span></span></span>Learn what truly matters. Study the aspects of
your idea of a “better world” and understand that we are all individuals. While
not everyone will agree with you, there are those who will. While so many want
a better world, not all will do the work with you, but there are those who
will. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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</span></span></span>Be honest. Even Utopia has its pitfalls and
dangers, but it is through the challenges that we learn what we are able to
overcome.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Do not sell a bill of goods
that is free of challenge, hardship or loss. You will undermine your own ideals
right from the start. Face challenges and loss with grace, and teach your
children the same. They will learn soon enough that mankind must build the
ideal. The world will not build it for them.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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</span></span></span>Do not insulate them from the world’s trials.
When you are gone you will have done them the injustice of leaving them
unprepared with no coping skills, nor the confidence to overcome.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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</span></span></span>Be responsible for your own part in building it.
Don’t stand in judgment of what you feel others should be doing. If you are
holding yourself responsible and doing your piece, you will be too busy to
worry about others’ action or inaction.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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</span></span></span>No more “In my day”.. you are still breathing.
This is still “your day”, and theirs. Do not separate yourself from them. If
the standards and ethics of the past are better, make them your standards and
ethics right now. The past tends to stay in the past.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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</span></span></span>As parent/elder, you set the stage and you are
responsible for being the constant in a child’s life, regardless of their age.
Be the adult, and be the constant. Give them credit for being very clever. They
know a liar and will recognize your hypocrisies (“Do as I say, not as I do”), very
quickly, even if they do not acknowledge them. You become the example that the
world is not to be trusted and there is no value in integrity. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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</span></span></span>Parent, don’t befriend.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>The friend of your old age knew you as their
parent in their youth. That is where respect for you, and self-respect, is
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</span></span></span>There is so much complaining about an “attitude
of entitlement.” In an age when parents have been befriending and bribing
children for well over two decades, what else would a child learn? Don’t point
the finger at the child. Look to the example set for them.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span></span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Times, "Times New Roman", serif;"><span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">b. Be a loving and supportive parent, but be consistent and stand by the rules you set. Set realistic rules for the good of your child, not for your convenience. Your child will test boundaries both to establish themselves as an individual, and to gauge the soundness of your protection. They hear "For your own good" and need to know you mean it. </span></span></div>
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</span></span></span>Look at the children who have grown up in
hardship. There is much to learn from them.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;">
</span>Respect them, encourage them to better things, as they are and will be
the examples for their generation.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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</span></span></span>Share your ideal with them. Do not paint
elaborate pictures. Explain Why you see it as better. Then explain How it is
possible. Finally, explain Who can make that difference. That last answer is
always the simplest: The individual. You and your child can build that “better
tomorrow” but it takes action, and it takes a realistic understanding that it
is going to take work and sincerity. You cannot have one without the other.
Sincerity without work becomes disappointment and hopelessness. Work without
sincerity becomes drudgery and regret.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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</span></span></span>Every person needs a purpose, no matter how
large or how small. That said, Never judge the contribution of others. Never
put your purpose ahead of others, nor make yourself subservient and put your
purpose behind another. They are separate paths that at times will cross,
complement one another, and be the mortar and truss to one another’s goals.<o:p></o:p></span></div>
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</span></span></span>Children need mentors. Adults need mentors. Age
does not remove the need for a role model or someone to look up to. Age does
not erase the inner urge to better oneself. Fear and insecurity do that well
enough on their own.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Age does not
entitle anyone to be a teacher.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Age
offers knowledge, but it is the individual’s responsibility to accept the
knowledge and to mold it through right action to become Wisdom. This is the
biggest lesson you offer your children. Admit when you are wrong, but do not
lose the lesson, and always live from the lesson. <o:p></o:p></span></div>
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</span></span></span>Never lose sight of the legacy, of the “better
world.” Live the lessons you share with your children. Exhibit the behaviours
you expect of them. The Integrity, Compassion, Conviction and realities of your
ideal world should be a part of your everyday behaviour. <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>Find examples of that ideal in the world right
now. Share them with your children. Rome wasn’t built in a day, but it was
built on a foundation. The foundation is here and it feeds hope.</span></div>
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</div>Raven Sextonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08377446319000178050noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3121241378474731852.post-88709875835142889142012-04-03T20:13:00.000-07:002012-04-03T20:13:06.400-07:00An Interesting Compliment<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">I don't often post spur-of-the-moment about personal experiences, but I had to share this one because it made me think as well as making me smile. I have a new term (at least new to me) to share: Gateway Goth. It's a simple story, but in many ways, a very common occurence in my world. I was approached by an executive today while standing in line for my cup of morning invigoration and caffeination. When one enjoys coffee as much as I do, all of the most convenient java suppliers are mapped out and frequented almost like clockwork. I know I'm not the only one, but I was certainly surprised to realize that there are some people who are as haze-free as I am before coffee, and their powers of observation are actually impressive. <br />
The gentleman who approached me had noticed the burgundy stripe in my hair. It is not uncommon where I live to see women all day long with long black hair, but a strip of burgundy does stand out just a bit. He nodded to the stripe, then to my antique jewelry and asked "Are you Goth?" Brow arched, I chuckled and nodded, even though the rest of my wardrobe, aside from being black with a little lace, was, in my opinion, fairly mainstream with a focus on professionalism (read: corporate). Ok, so the Edwardian boots beneath my slacks might have been a bit of a giveaway, as well. <br />
I told my new acquaintance that I was impressed by his powers of observation. He confided that he had a Goth college student for a son and had found himself impressed by the genre as well as more than a bit reminiscent about his own punk teen years. Apparently he was "less expressive" and more "conformist" during his college days, so a lot of this was still part of a learning curve for him. <br />
After a fifteen or twenty minute, very enjoyable conversation, he thanked me for being "approachable" and for the affirmation that there are always things one can do to express their "Gothness" in even the most mundane attire. I did admit that I have similar conversations with folks from all walks of life on a fairly regular basis. This intrigued him and he asked "And they aren't spooked?" I couldn't help myself..."Everyone likes to be spooked. So perhaps they're glad to know.... We're everywhere." He laughed and nodded sincerely. "I sure hope so."<br />
This brought our conversation to an amicable close, but not before he informed me that I am a "Gateway Goth"... one of those goths that others come to with questions. Apparently we "lift the veil" but only enough to let the truth leak out just enough to build the appeal and get even the most vanilla individuals in touch with their Inner Spooky/Macabre/Shadow. We are the good alternative... where parents warn their kids about "gateway drugs"... apparently some are happy to direct them toward Gateway Goths. <br />
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And now I'm off with a chuckle and a fresh cup of coffee.<br />
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Keep Calm and Spooky On,<br />
Raven</div>Raven Sextonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08377446319000178050noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3121241378474731852.post-38675191333339437152012-03-26T21:41:00.000-07:002012-03-26T21:41:00.133-07:00Non-Club Goths and the People Who Love Them<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on"><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjaceb-wwx3HvCbZ_eg6Tpzq7541EHZmcr2x2t2vVRRyiADP9FcqIpYFT0x4iRzgVrfMT01qVAG_7vh5-OAgtKpxo8eAXwQcQVC6GFDBTKjoIZQOtyWQejE7aetmge37QdVFjvJwXtWtkR2/s1600/Ubergoth.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="176" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjaceb-wwx3HvCbZ_eg6Tpzq7541EHZmcr2x2t2vVRRyiADP9FcqIpYFT0x4iRzgVrfMT01qVAG_7vh5-OAgtKpxo8eAXwQcQVC6GFDBTKjoIZQOtyWQejE7aetmge37QdVFjvJwXtWtkR2/s320/Ubergoth.jpg" width="320" /></a></div><div style="max-height: none; max-width: none; min-height: auto; min-width: auto;"><br />
</div><div style="max-height: none; max-width: none; min-height: auto; min-width: auto;">An email I received today reminded me of a post I did on my other (comatose) blog some time back, so with a bit of editing, I found it applicable for the EVGA audience with its wonderful sensibilities and super power called Common Sense. </div><div style="max-height: none; max-width: none; min-height: auto; min-width: auto;"></div><a name='more'></a><br />
<div style="max-height: none; max-width: none; min-height: auto; min-width: auto;">I will do my best to make the most of this post, and honour the sweet couple featured herein. The real pleasure in this is that I get to (belatedly) share two friends’ happy event, brag just a little bit about my handiwork (a wedding veil), and shed a little light on an often forgotten portion of the Gothic community: Non-scene goths and the people who love them.</div><div style="max-height: none; max-width: none; min-height: auto; min-width: auto;"><br />
</div><div style="max-height: none; max-width: none; min-height: auto; min-width: auto;">A year ago this past All Hallow’s Eve, I very regrettably missed a wedding that was right up my alley. Yes, there are days when I really do miss writing vows and performing unique weddings. In this case, the bride and groom are well known to me and have been dear friends for several years. Since I was unable to travel north to the wedding, I offered to make the bride’s veil and she honoured me by accepting. She is a bubbly redhead with a smile that goes on for days and a laugh to match. Her zest for life is matched by her creative talent and sinister sense of humour. Yes, she is Goth. She has never been the club-attending, Goth-forum posting, Darker-Than-Thou stereotype that is so often attributed to those of us of the Gothesque persuasion, but she is Goth, nonetheless, and wears it well.</div><div style="max-height: none; max-width: none; min-height: auto; min-width: auto;"><br />
</div><div style="max-height: none; max-width: none; min-height: auto; min-width: auto;">Her husband is a fantastic teddy bear of a man who makes a phenomenal friend, and I would imagine, due to his quick and twisted wit, a formidable adversary. But wait… he, however, is not Goth, although I hear he does, on occasion, wear a bit of black. How does this work? You ask…</div><div style="max-height: none; max-width: none; min-height: auto; min-width: auto;">Simple. Like so many brilliantly compatible couples out there, their relationship is based on mutual respect and appreciation, on family, quality time and love. For as many common interests as they share, there are those they do not, which is a testament to their strength as individuals.</div><div style="max-height: none; max-width: none; min-height: auto; min-width: auto;"><br />
</div><div style="max-height: none; max-width: none; min-height: auto; min-width: auto;">Now why do I bring all of this up? Because of the beauty of true individuality, which is what so many claim is a HUGE part of the Gothic culture. Like couples that do not need to be carbon copies of one another, members of the Gothic community may emulate aspects of one another that they admire, but come to the table with the ability and finesse to revel in their individuality, complementing each other as part of a larger, brilliant dark tapestry. The culture is not built on, nor validated strictly by one’s attendance at “the club” every week, or the number of fellow Goths who know their name or can brag about “hang out” time spent in each others’ company. One need not post to all the prestigious forums or know all the gossip to BE Goth. The Goth club scene is a wonderful venue for mass celebration of all things Decadent and Dark, but it is one of many facets of the lifestyle. From Bat's Day to cruises, art shows and tea parties, Goths are delightfully brilliant when it comes to events. And they do not "turn back into" non-Goths when not in crowds. They ARE Goth; they ATTEND events.</div><div style="max-height: none; max-width: none; min-height: auto; min-width: auto;"><br />
</div><div style="max-height: none; max-width: none; min-height: auto; min-width: auto;">And let us not forget our "Goths-at-heart".. but that is another topic for another night (very soon). </div><div style="max-height: none; max-width: none; min-height: auto; min-width: auto;"><br />
</div><div style="max-height: none; max-width: none; min-height: auto; min-width: auto;">Over the years I have heard from so many people who embrace the lifestyle, the fashions, the music, the ambiance in their own way, with their own likes and dislikes. Last I checked, no one lost their Dark Membership because they owned the wrong music/boots/brand of absinthe, or even (GASP) disliked absinthe. I have also met many who base their entire self-worth on how many times they’ve been to Convergence, how many pictures are on their Myspace posing with Voltaire or the number of corsets in their closet. Please don’t misunderstand, I adore Voltaire and have my own aspirations of one day owning a veritable plethora of corsets and bustle skirts for each day of the year, however, they are among the things I like ABOUT Gothic life, not tic-marks on my Gothy scorecard. And to anyone who judges the “Goth Points” of others based on these things, I can only say… “Lighten up. You are probably missing out on some incredible friendships, and making yourself look like a pseudo-elitist ass.” And yes, I will say it all with a sincere smile, of course. I do not wish to be rude. Only honest.</div><div style="max-height: none; max-width: none; min-height: auto; min-width: auto;"><br />
</div><div style="max-height: none; max-width: none; min-height: auto; min-width: auto;">So please, always be true to yourself in how you embrace and display your Dark Side. Oh, and don't forget to bring cookies.</div><div style="max-height: none; max-width: none; min-height: auto; min-width: auto;"><br />
</div><div style="max-height: none; max-width: none; min-height: auto; min-width: auto;">Keep it Spooky, ruffled and set to good music,</div><div style="max-height: none; max-width: none; min-height: auto; min-width: auto;"><br />
</div><div style="max-height: none; max-width: none; min-height: auto; min-width: auto;">Raven</div></div>Raven Sextonhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08377446319000178050noreply@blogger.com4